Sexual Health News for Senior Citizens
Sex Health News for Seniors
Is sexual intimacy between unmarried senior citizens sinful?
June 18, 2015 - An 82-year-old widow asked in a letter to Rabbi David Krishef, “How far can we go?” She is referring to the relationship with her new found love, an 81 year old widower. The two had long marriages and do not wish to marry now. So, Rabbi Krishef put the question to other religious leaders, too.
The responses, along with many opinions from readers, is published online in MLive.
“Engaging in a consensual, mature, committed relationship that included physical intimacy, especially at your ages, would be far from inappropriate," said the minister from a Hindu Temple in the conclusion of his response.
A United Church of Christ minister added, “"The capacity to love and to fall in love certainly doesn't diminish with age. For many, the desire to express that love in physical intimacy doesn't either. It seems to me that Jesus' statements regarding marriage have fidelity (and the protection of the women) as their bottom line (Matthew 19:3-12). For me, that should be the measuring stick for your relationship.”
Rev. Sandra Nikkel, head pastor of Conklin Reformed Church, responds, "This question sounds more like people who want to have their cake and eat it too. When she says, 'Some people we know just live together — not for us,' what I hear her saying is: We are better than that. It is obvious that she knows what the right thing to do is. Yet, she wants to find a way around it. Isn't that what we all often do? We want to calm our conscious but we also want what we want. We can't have it both ways.”
A law professor writes in messages… “Sex between seniors will land you in hell? Really? Really? Is this kindergarten? Many of my students read this column. The response often is "are that that shallow?" It's time for this column, which could be a real teaching tool, to be taken over by someone with the courage to wade into the deep water of RELEVANT moral conflict and import. Something that appeals to involved citizens, the educated, and the well informed.”
Another writer says…” If two older people like that want some intimacy that's only human. Leave them be!”
And there is more…MLive.
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